Many of my clients start working with me because they “feel sad” and don’t know why. To the outside world these successful women have everything. They typically are excelling in their careers, are thriving financially, and have fulfilling relationships and families. Yet they live with a perpetual sadness. I have coined it “low-grade melancholy.”
After working with me for a short period of time my clients have been able to successfully identify the area of their lives that are causing them to feel sad and to make massive changes in their lives. However, there is a difference between “feeling sad” and being depressed.
Experiencing minor depression or what I call “low-grade melancholy” is typically related to external sources in our lives not being aligned with our internal desires. It can also be a result of us having beliefs about life or relationships that are not true and are bringing us down.
Depression as an illness is something more severe and impacts a smaller portion of the population than does sadness. How can someone tell if they are experiencing depression as an illness or if they are experiencing sadness?
There are many medical markers that physicians use to determine if someone is experiencing depression. Below are a few.
A person suffering from medical depression may exhibit the following behaviors:
- Stopped socializing with friends and family
- Unable to get things done at work or school
- Be unable to concentrate
- Began relying on alcohol or drugs
A person suffering from medical depression may experience thoughts such as:
- I’m a failure
- I’m worthless
- Life is not worth living
- Nothing good ever happens to me
A person suffering from medical depression may experience the following feelings:
- Physical Symptoms
A person suffering from medical depression may experience the following symptoms:
- Problems sleeping
- Weight gain or loss
Depression is a illness and needs to be addressed. If you or someone you know is experiencing some or all of these symptoms please consult your family doctor. There is treatment for depression and no one has to live with it.
Have you or someone you known experienced depression and received help? What advice can you provide to community on how to address it?